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Name : arpihs
Date of Birth : 28-oct-1982
Time of Birth : 10:10 am
Place of Birth : New Delhi
Gand Mool : No
Kal sarp Dosh : No
Dasha : Sat - Venus
YOG IN LAGAN HOROSCOPE
1. Ruchak Yog - If mars is present in 1, 8 or 10 and is present in kendra (center) it is called Ruchak yog. If the person is having ruchak yog, then you can predict the good points of mars could be seen in him. Person could be be brave, person who will always defeat his enemy, He could become officer in armed forces and could raise to higher levels.
PRESENT -- No
2. Bhadra Yog- If Mercury is present in 3 or 6 and is present in Kendra it is called Bhadra yog. If the person is having Bhadra yog, person would be sharp, intelligent, good in mathematics, studies, and good speech power.
PRESENT -- No
3. Hans Yog - If Jupiter is present in 4,9,or 12 an is present in Kendar (center) then it is called Hans Yog. If the person is having hans yog, he would be considered respectable, sincere and well cultured person.
PRESENT -- No
4. Malvya Yog - If Venus is present in 2, 7, or 12 and is present in center it is called Malvya yog. If the person is having malvya yog, he would be having all good points from venus. He would have good food, comforts from children and women. He would live happily and possess many cars.
PRESENT -- No
5 Shahs Yog - if saturn is present in 7,10, or 11 and is present in center it is called shash yog. If the person is having shash yog they are highly powerful. This yog is present in Mr Atal Bihari Vajpayee kundli in Ascendant (Lagan). Person having shash yog they rule one community, village, city, or country.
PRESENT -- No
6. Anfa Yog - If there is any planet in 12th house from moon and no planet in second house from moon it is called anfa yog. This Yog is considered good for prosperity.
PRESENT -- No
7. Sunfa Yog - If there is any planet in 2nd house from moon and no planet in 12th house from moon it is called sunfa yog. Like above this yog is also considered good for prosperity.
PRESENT -- No
8. Gaj Kesari Yog - If moon is in the centre from Jupiter or we can say if moon is in 1,4,7 or 10th place from Jupiter it is called Gaj kesari Yog.
PRESENT -- No
9. Parvat Yog - The Ascendant Lord- the lord of that house is lying in centre or trikon and is in its own house or top house, it is called Parvat yog.
Various other raj yogs.
PRESENT -- No
10. If lord of ninth and lord of tenth are sitting together in good house, it is called raj yog. [ 1, 4, 7 and 10 are considered as Good houses ] then [ 5,9 and 2nd are considered Good houses ] then [ 3 house is considered Good ] [ 6, 8 and 12 houses are considered as bad houses ]
PRESENT -- No
Prediction of first house -
First House – The first house/Ascendant/Lagan represents – Start, Sunrise, Face, Soul, Birth, Personality, and Mind. This is the first house and it is the most powerful important house of the entire horoscope. If any great yog is being formed in first house, gives immense power the entire horoscope. if lagan is having good planets or is seen by good planets and lord of that is sitting in his own house or his top planet (uch grah) then person having such horoscope will have lot of wealth, rising graph in monetary term, long age and will be good leader.
Lagan lord is placed in 2 nd HOUSE.
Lagan lord is Mars and is placed in Jupiter Rashi.
Mars and Jupiter are friends to each other….Positive.
Lagan lord placed in very next house is positive.
So this indicates good personality.
Negatives are also attached.
Lagan lord i.e. Mars is seen by its enemy saturn.
Saturn is sitting in 12 th house and seeing lagan lord i.e. Mars.
So this is weakening the lagan and second house.
Mars is placed in Venus house in Navamsha chart….Neutral.
So over all we would give 70% marks to self house or lagan house or first house.
Deduction of 30% is being done, because lagan lord is being seen by Mars.
Prediction of second house -
Second house – The second house depicts Wealth, Speech, family ,left eye, Throat. It is also called dhan bhav. if the good stars are in second house or is seen by them then person would be ultra rich, will gain good education, big family and would be good in art of conversation.
Second house lord is placed in 12 th HOUSE.
Second house lord is Jupiter and is placed in Venus Rashi.
Jupiter and Venus are enemies to each other.
Lord of wealth house going to 12 house is negative for
- and family.
Jupiter there is placed with Venus…Negative.
Jupiter + Venus causes or gives bad name to person due to opposite sex.
Mars is placed in second house
Ketu is placed in second house.
Mars + ketu are paap grah.
Both these grah in second house is seen by saturn.
So positive effect in second house.
So speech can be problem to Madam .
Her problem will rise due to her speech house.
She can use bad words or her language can be annoying to some one.
She will not speak or she will create problems by her speech.
As lord of second house is in 12 house or trik house or paap ghar, there will be reduction in
- comforts of family
Prediction of Third house -
Third house – T hird house depicts bravery, courage, dynamism, extra activities, brothers and sisters. If the house is strong, then person would be very brave, having good relations with brothers and sisters.
Third house lord is placed in 12 th HOUSE.
Third house lord is Saturn and is placed in Venus Rashi.
Saturn is exalted in Venus house….Positive.
Saturn and Venus are together…Positive.
Saturn is placed in same house in Navamsha chart.
So this is making Saturn vargottam.
So tremendous power has gone to saturn.
But at the same time, there are attached negatives also.
Saturn is placed with Sun.
So saturn is placed with its enemy Sun.
So this decreases the values of saturn to some extent.
But on the whole third house is good, because
- Saturn is exalted ( ucch rashi ) and is vargottam.
So conclusion comes
so she will be strong, courageous and bold. If not in earlier life, but when saturn Mahadasha will be on, she will become so.
Good saturn also dictates good relations with brother and sisters.
Saturn placed in 12 th house also does
- Saturn in 12 th house increases the laziness. Such people are famous for their sleep, losses and laziness
- Such people are good in bed comforts.
So over all we would give 80% marks to third house.
20% deduction is being done, because saturn is placed with its enemy Sun.
Prediction of Fourth House
Fourth House – Fourth house depicts mother, Home, comforts in house, Movable Wealth, clothes, big cars, comfortable life. If the fourth house is strong, then person would be having all the mentioned comforts. He would be having nice big house, good friends, good wife, clothes and a happy man. This thing also give good cars and attachment with mother.
Fourth house lord is placed in seventh HOUSE.
Fourth house lord is Saturn and is placed in Venus Rashi.
Saturn and Venus are friends with each other.
And Moreover saturn is placed in exalted state.
So this is giving good marks to fourth house.
But again as mentioned above negatives are also attached.
Saturn placed in 12 th house is sitting with Sun and Jupiter.
Saturn is enemy with Sun and neutral with Jupiter….Negative.
So this is reducing some marks.
So here we would again like to mentioned that placement of fourth house lord in 12 th house is negative.
Because fourth house is considered to as house of comforts.
And 12 th house is considered as paap ghar.
And fourth lord going to 12 th house is negative.
So here we would deduct some marks for placement.
More negative effects.
Rahu sitting in 8 th house is also having effect on fourth house. Negative.
Rahu is having vision on 4 th house.
Rahu vision on moon and fourth house decreases the comforts of family life and problems to mother.
But with some negative effect, You will have all comforts from home and mother.
So here we would give 65% marks to fourth house.
30% deduction has been done because
- saturn is placed in 12 th house with Sun and Jupiter.
Prediction of fifth house
Fifth house – Fifth house depicts Brain, Astrology, Child, Stomach and studies. Good fifth house represents good children, financially well, famous, intelligent & good speaker.
Fifth house lord is placed in 12 th HOUSE.
Fifth house lord is Jupiter and is placed in Venus Rashi.
Jupiter and Venus are enemies to each other.
12 th house is not considered to be very auspicious house
and lord of children/education house going to 12 th house is negative.
You will find some sort of problem in education and children.
Problem in education can be like gaps or concentration in subjects.
Mars sitting in 2 house is also having vision on fifth house…Negative.
Your fifth house lord is being effected by
When so many planets are directly effecting your education house.
This can tend to increase your education learning power or can create confusion and problem in concentration.
So here we will just focus, where lord of education house is placed.
Education house lord is placed in 12 th house…Negative.
And also it is placed with its enemy i.e. Venus
And also situation in Navamsha is not very positive.
Prediction of sixth House
Sixth house – Sixth house represents disease, war, sin, insult, court cases, Enemies, Servants. Usually 6, 8 and 12th houses are considered as bad houses and if bad planets are sitting in these houses, it is considered as bad planets destroying bad effects given by these houses. if the sixth house lord is sitting in sixth house only it is called astra yog. This also diminishes the effect given by sixth house.
Sixth house lord is placed in second HOUSE.
Sixth house lord is Mars and is placed in Jupiter Rashi.
Mars and Jupiter are friends to each other….Positive.
But negative attached are
Mars is being seen by rahu…Negative.
Mars is being seen by saturn…..Negative.
And also all 4 planets are seeing sixth house.
So we would give 70% marks to sixth house
Prediction of seventh house
Seventh house – Seventh house depicts Sexual relations, Business Partner, import-export, Business Partner, Marriage life, In-laws, Private Organs, Wife-husband. If lord of seventh house is effected by favorable planets, that person gets good wife, good marriage life. This Yog differ from person to person. If person is born in conservative country and second marriage is illegal, then he may end up in having good wife and good family. If the person is born in western culture, then person would be philanderer
Seventh house has great impact on human being. It is concerned with our partner. Life partner or sexual partner or husband plays a great role in one’s life. So it is very essential that seventh house should be strong.
SEVENTH HOUSE lord is placed in 12 th HOUSE.
Seventh house lord is Venus and is placed in Venus Rashi.
Venus placed in Venus house is extremely positive.
This is of real importance as all the misery has been generated due to this house.
In this chart, Lord of seventh house is Venus
And in General lord of marriage house is Venus.
Here Venus is placed in Venus house only…Positive.
Venus is sitting with Saturn…Positive.
But negatives attached are
- Venus is sitting at degree 09:04 and sun is sitting at degree 10:49
So their degree is quite close.
So when some planet is near sun, that particular planet get ast.
So with so much close degree, you are not able to get the benefits from your husband.
Also when Venus is extremely close degree, then interaction with opposite sex tends to be less.
- Venus is sitting with Jupiter.
Venus and Jupiter are enemies to each other. So when ever both are together, there tends to be getting bad name to opposite sex, or getting difficulties due to opposite sex.
- Venus is placed in enemy house in Navamsha chart.
Now we family house from second house.
And as mentioned above second house is also not very positive.
Because lord of marriage house i.e. Jupiter is placed in enemy house.
We see marriage comforts from seventh house, and its lord is placed at close degree with Sun.
We see marriage comforts from Venus, and its lord is placed at close degree with Sun.
Then only positive point is Venus is in its own house, but then degree is too close to Sun.
So here we would give 65% marks to marriage house.
Prediction of Eight house
Eight house – Eight house indicates mystery, death, deep Sciences and Injuries If lord of eight house is in favorable house or is in favorable position it is called asur yog. Such a person is selfish, stubborn, conspirator. And in the process hurts him.
EIGHT HOUSE lord is placed in eleventh HOUSE.
Eight house lord is Mercury and is placed in Mercury Rashi.
So Mercury placed in mercury rashi is extremely positve.
And also mercury is placed in mercury house in Navamsha chart.
So this is positive.
Rahu is placed in eight house.
Rahu is little negative in eight house.
But over all eight house is good.
And we would give good marks to eight house.
Prediction of Ninth house
Ninth House – Ninth house depicts religion, foreign travel, luck and holy place. If ninth house is effected by good planets, then it is very good yog. Ninth house is considered as very auspicious house. Person having such yog is highly respectable, lucky, always rich, and is respected by intelligent people. This yog gives special power to total horoscope
NINTH House lord is placed in 4 th HOUSE.
Ninth house lord is Moon and is placed in Saturn Rashi.
And in Navamsha chart, again moon is placed in Navamsha chart.
After closing examining, we found that 3 planets are vargottam in your chart.
Saturn, Mercury & Moon are vargottam.
So this is giving immense boost to your life as a whole.
When 3 planets are getting immensely good in life, then person lead extremely well life.
In your case, your sufferings happened due to Venus and seventh house.
Venus which represents husband or opposite sex partner is sitting with Sun at extremely close degree.
Coming back to ninth house.
Ninth house lord i.e. Moon is laced in fourth house.
And moon in fourth house is all alone.
There is no planet in either left side or right side of the house.
So when moon is not surrounded by any planet, then person becomes weak mind wise.
Then person is not able to make strong decision.
But good thing is that moon is vargottam.
So we will give 70% marks to luck house.
30% deduction is being done because
Mars is having vision on ninth house.
Saturn is having vision on ninth house.
Moon is sitting all alone in fourth house.
Prediction of Tenth house
Tenth House – Tenth house indicates father, work place, energy to work, success in business or professional life, nature of work and job. Tenth house is considered to be most important, because it is related to work. If the lord of tenth house is situated in good house or lord of tenth house is effected by favorable planets. It makes the person hard worker and successful in his work. The effect becomes negative if the lord of tenth is effected by Paap Grah
TENTH House lord is placed in 12 th HOUSE.
Tenth house lord is Sun and is placed in Venus Rashi.
Sun and Venus are enemies to each other.
Sun is placed in deblation (neech rashi ) in 12 th house.
Tenth house represents house of karma, profession house and father.
As lord of profession house is also Sun
And father is also represented by Sun.
And in both cases Sun is there.
And Sun is in neech rashi (deblation)….Negative.
Saturn is sitting with Sun. (both are enemies)….Negative
Sun is placed with sun. (Whenever Sun is seen by Rahu, then sun becomes ast)….Negative
Also in Navamsha chart, Sun is sitting in saturn house with Rahu…Negative.
So sun and tenth house is being effected by all corners.
So this is the reason that you were not able to get the comforts from your father.
And this is the reason you have always missed him.
And as profession house lord is Sun, you will always feel or face problems in profession.
You will face opposition from colleagues and bosses.
Moon sitting in fourth house is having positive effect on tenth house.
Except moon there is no positive respite to Sun or tenth house.
So in total we would 55% marks to profession house.
Prediction of Eleventh house
Eleventh house – Eleventh house indicates gain, incomes, speculation and right ear. Strong Eleventh house gives the person enormous earnings and weak eleventh house deprives of him good earnings.
Eleventh House lord is placed in 11 th HOUSE.
Eleventh house lord is Mercury and is placed in Mercury Rashi.
So eleventh house lord is placed in its own house only….Positive.
And also in Navamsha chart, Mercury is placed in Mercury rashi.
So as mentioned above Mercury is vargottam.
So mercury is extreme positive.
So Mercury stands for imparting education. So this justifies your interest and earning from teachings.
But doing business would be risky, as your 12 th house is having exalted Saturn.
So this will tend to increase your expenses.
But on the whole you have good earning house.
There is no negative vision on eleventh house or Mercury.
So you will earn good in your life.
So we would give full marks to earning house.
Prediction of Twelfth house
Twelfth house – Twelfth house indicates losses, foreign house, bed comforts, friends, sleep
Twelfth House lord is placed in 12 th HOUSE.
Twelfth house lord is Venus and is placed in Venus Rashi.
Venus if placed in 12 th house is always good, but here Venus is placed at close proximity with Sun, so power of Venus has been reduced.
This was the reason or less comforts obtained from husband.
Saturn here is exalted, Exalted Saturn would have given you bed comforts, and huge expenses also.
If 12 th house is more on upside, then unexpected expense are on rise and losses do occur.
So 12 th house is having exalted Saturn, so your tendency would be to
Do more expenses, do more rest and laziness.
It is quite possible that you do business and end up with losing money.
So it is not advisable for you to do business, as you are going under the dasha of saturn – Venus. And both are placed in 12 th house, so this will increase your expense and all the money would be lost.
Coming to your question
My parents got married on 1982 Feb.
My father was in revenue department- a very honest and simple guy. My Mother is MBBS , she left her practice after marraige as my father wanted a full time housewife. My parents had to move to Rajasthan from delhi after my sister's birth. We are 2 sisters.
I was sent to creche very early. I have always remained shy and quiet throughout my life.
I lost my father in a car accident when I was 8 years of age. 2 years later my mother took a job as she had to take care of two daughters. It is said that my father's death was not an accident but an attempt to block the serious investigations. My father was a very honest person.
I studied in small public schools in delhi, but my actual education began in Rajasthan where I studied from 1st till 8th and 9th -12 in a public school run by the royal family in Rajasthan Jodhpur.
I did a diploma in Computers from jodhpur and I workesd as a trainer there. Along with that I did my B.com and M.Com in Accounts from Rajasthan.
I have always been very sharp and intelligent girl , but being first child I was pampered and loved which made me lazy and stubborn.This further made me very unsystematic. I am saying this because I could have done much better in my life and still I know I have the potential to do a lot(beyond my imagination). My grades were never up to the mark.
I think a lot which drives me to think in depth- I am tempted to conduct indepth analysis of subjects which I study. This tendency developed in me while I was in college. I just cannot write what I do not understand.
My mother sent us to the best schools , my participation in extracurricular activities has remained fair. I never volunteered for any activity but because I was popular for being shy and quiet so I was noticed and pushed into activities.
My father's death added a lot to my problem. We enjoyed our father's reputation , ppl loved us but at the same time I was always taught be be like him.Be as simple as your father, as quiet as he was - I was happy and I followed everything very passionately.
I liked to remain simple and quiet. I should be honest. I did everything. Although we were away from relatives but ppl around us took great care of us for major years. We had to face bitter moments when we were asked to vacate a house. My mother bought a flat in 2000.
Many unpleasant things happened before and after which I don't think I need to mention as such things happen with everybody.
Not having a father or a male member around is a very unfortunate thing to happen to a girl - This I realized after I got married.
I was not a very outgoing person as my mother is not very brave. I was not allowed to go out with friends and I never complained as I was not attached to any of my friends. I have very good friends but being a hard core introvert I never connected with any one of them.It has not been easy for me to see astrologers -each time I feel so humiliated. I have always kept quiet but now I am spreading my news over the internet.
but I must admit that one should be outspoken.
. I had few chat friends and was infatuated by one but I knew it had no future so I never met him or anybody. As far as affairs are concerned, I was always told that I will have to marry in my caste and I was ok with it. But being a passionate girl had I been in love with someone I would have had an affair and married the same person . For marital purpose i did meet 3 guys before I met my husband, and i liked each one of them but only one of them who was like my husband showed his real self to me at a very early stage so things stopped there. I had my first affair with my husband, , I met him after our parents matched our kundlis and i did fell in love with him. things happened so quickly that I did not understand anything. All I knew was that our kundalis are matched , families have agreed and the boy has given his consent. I was in love with him. I asked him so many times to reconsider his decision as his behaviour displayed fluctuations. I felt something was wrong. But then I thought that I must be overanalysing. The thing was that so many ppl were involved in my marraiage. My maternal side and paternal side tried their best to find the best kundali and arrange meetings but I would say hastiness from my paternal side might have been 1 reason which made me ask this boy to make a quick decision, I wrote him a mail saying that we will not meet if he cannot take a decision in this meeting as he wanted to know me and we had met just twice before. He then wanted to meet and he gave his consent very happily.
POINT: Ever since our families met and things were finalised, I have not rested since that very moment. The planets and stars in my horoscope didn't allow me happiness.
About my husband: - He is as naughty and as innocent as a child. This charmed me when I first met him. I didn't remember his face until we got married. He is attached to his mom which again I liked abt him when we first met - he mentioned he would have to go abroad and that I will be expected to take care of him mom. Being a mother is my dream and when I grow old I would like my children to be as loving as my husband is. Also I read my horoscope once which I remember now that my mother in law will follow certain policies which will make me feel miserable. At that time I believed in everything he said , he lost his father just 3 years ago and he decided to live with his mom. His older brother lives with his wife and child in different state. My husband had many girlfriends one of whom he wanted to marry but my late father in law was against his marraige and after his death he decided to go for an arrange marraige. After our families gave us their approval he told me about his affair and I was not very happy as I felt he must have told me this before. Anyways our family meet didn't go well as he didn't stay for the meeting for which my side got suspicious and for no reason I got accused of not being able to know a guy's mind. I felt very bad - how was i suppose to know a guy' mind , I am a girl with no brother no male interaction.
I was asked to not to meet him unless my family has a meeting as he just came and went away saying he had some task in bank.
Anyways then he told me that he wants to fall in love with me for which we must meet. I refused to meet him, I had to obey my aunt but later my cousin's wife asked me to meet him so I met him. My family always knew about our meetings.
I don't blame him as I know my weakness - I cannot understand a guy's mind.
He met for very short durations. rarely picked up my phones.
He would meet me at his ease , he would call me when he felt but so I chose to be submissive. Then there was another problem with him: < name hidden >you must ask to meet me, its your right. once when I exercised my right it backfired.
He went abroad for 4 months without meeting me although he kept me waiting until the night, I wanted to see him off at the airport but he didn't want me to come.He came back and still was not very keen to see me. I thought ok. His maternal cousin was in the hospital so he could not see me. I discussed with my bhabhi and she said I must insist to meet him if he feels that is my right. When I asked him why he did not meet me- he forgot my right and started telling me abt his duties as a cousin.
I just wanted to meet him as he said he wanted to fall in love with me and that we must spend our time together.
Anyways that was sorted out. He made me take one day leave from work and did not turn up.
He called me to meet and next day I went without calling him and he didn't show up- My mistake I agree I should have called.
His mom is a very simple and very innocent lady which I believed in until our wedding day. She began throwing tantrums since that very day and may be before she must have been into it. He fought with me twice but question of suspecting her hand never occured to me. I saw her as my mother. I have seen my mother live without a man and I could imagine the pain of her loss of husband.
Ok sir here I would again say that I was accused of rejecting a guy because he was close to his mom. I got to hear it from my uncle who said to me " uski mother ke saath kya problem thi" I was taken aback and I said " I don't know his mother, he never talked abt his mom and why should I have a problem with anybody's mother" . This was a shock because my upbringing has never been of this sort. However in my present situation I must admit that I don't like my mother in law becasue of her behaviour towards me. I just respect her becasue she is almost my mother's age ( much older than my mom).
Also my horoscope tells that my mother in law will make me unhappy. I tried my best to do whatever possible I could but now I feel very tired and demotivated. I hate myself for not liking my husband's mother sometime i don't like my husband and I hate myself and more I feel angry. The fact is that I was not treated well despite loving them all. I loved his mom , his brother ,his niece and liked his bhabhi. I was blamed for being jealous of his mom.
I have been told that due to my ashtam dasha i will be accused and my ashtam began with my college.So I must not feel angry or blame anybody for accusing me.
He would talk about his mom and tell me how his paternal aunt used to and still continues to attack her but never talked abt his father not being good to his mom. Had he told me this- main shaadi se mana kar deti. sab samajh mein aajata. One day after our engagement I went out with him , his bro, bhabi and kid . They began talking abt the wicked aunt and uncles from paternal side. I didn't know what to say so I decided to keep shut in front of his family. I was only listening to them.
My husband would tell me that I must take care of mummy if any bad relative of theirs tries to hurt her. I agreed as I felt it was my duty. But he went overboard. He would call me once in 15 days to tell me how innocent his mother is and how bad his aunt is - one day I just told him that he must not talk bad about his bua in front of his bhabhi coz I have felt something strange in her behaviour and that even if he does it I will not do it- I agree this was my mistake I was too new for him to advise him.
It backfired again Now I was jealous of bhabhi , someday I will say Why doesn't your elder brother shares mother's responsibilities.
It really gave me a shock and I thought "mother kahan se aa gayi". He would say to me " hum jab ghoomne jayenge mummy akele nahi rahegi saath mein jayegi" to which i was ok. If I am ok " <name hidden >you are not a normal girl".
Once I abused his ex-girlfriends. that was my mistake.
My only wish was that I wanted my future husband to understand me and not misunderstand me. He would not take my calls. He never took a day off from work to spend some time.
All of this was making me crazy and to top it all I was also expected to earn a reputation just as he has. I could have done it for him but I know my efforts must have killed me by now.
His aunt is the cause of all troubles in his mother's life and bhabhi is a very good girl. My mother in law and sister in law do not gel well and my mom in law conducted a ceremony after my marraige which she did not do for my sister in law. Her mother badly insulted my mother in law on phone which my husband doesn't know. After that on some occassion bhabhi came I greeted she didn't respond well and my mother in law asked me to say talk to her. I said to her that she didn't respond well then why should I apologise. Later in the evening while my family was downstairs my husband came and abused me and told me that he was not my late father's servant and that he is not feeding on my late father's earnings. I told him that bhabhi did not respond well , he refused to believe in me. He said he would throw me out of his house with my belongings and send me back to my mother's house. I had to listen at that time as I know nobody would have believed in me. Now thankfully my side is aware of the reality and they are supportive. My worry is that I should not be paralysed and ppl should not raise a finger at my upbringing or my mother's efforts. She did her best. I don't want ppl to misinterpret my shortcomings as my crimes.I want to be a healthy and good mother. My fear is that if I fail , my mother will be accused.
This is what has happened with me. My shortcomings look like my crimes and I am accused.
I am so tired of my life.
I think and ppl tell me that because my mom overprotected me - and I had no experiences that is the reason I am suffering.
Now I feel I should have had one affair to know what goes on in a guy' s mind.
He would not talk to me for days and I would think that is ok as he told me after our engagement that he would not talk or interact much with me for first 2 years. Frankly speaking I did not want to cause insecurities to my mother in law that we are close.
She created a big scene " they are not talking " . She kept putting things in his mind and that made him feel that I am lazy. I agree I am lazy - not exactly lazy it is just that I decide time for doing things. I make my own plans if I have to do things.
I have to think of future when I will have my children , how will then I manage my things. She wants me to do things her way.
She has no professional experience so she cannot decide for me. I never disobeyed her but she should not tell me to do things when I have something else going on my mind.
She wants to cook the food , despite my calls from work she would not wait and finish cooking. Then "<name hidden> made my mom cook food at the age of 65"
Learn from my mom she is a good cook - I agreed I had no issue but she had.
She would tell me " I am a very good controller" now I understand her way of controlling things.
We went out alone twice as a couple after the things were known to my side. prior to that we never went alone without his mother and maternal side.
There is no way I can pamper my mother in law and now I feel so tired after doing so much and getting accused.
My love for her was so genuine before our marraige but she put in her best efforts to ruin my equation with all including my husband.
I wish things could be undone, the misunderstandings and everything, their insecurity - THEY DID NOT FEEL OR SEE MY AFFECTION . My efforts are wasted. We would have been 1 big happy family. NOW I FEEL SO ANGRY , I DON'T WANT TO WASTE MY EFFORTS ON THEM.
this is 5% of the story.
They made my husband fight with me on my birthday just before our wedding- He said I was not talking to his bhabhi that day in car , it meas I am jealous of her. I will spoil his relationship with his brother and bhabhi. He talked of a divorce that night. He talked about a divorce later many times. He called me insane. I could have refused to marry had our engagment not been a big thing.
The engagement was as good as wedding. My father has a name in the society and my mother has worked very hard to keep it intact.I knew before our wedding that this guy would not make a good husband but I didn't know that his mother and brother were 2 steps ahead of him. When he was abroad he forgot his neice's birthday but I didn't I sent a huge gift pack and card from delhi to their place. Money is one thing but affection and pains if not respected - why should I care.
Even for mummy's birthday I sent gifts and wished her early morning.
He never reciprocated. No birthday wishes for my mother or sister.
My wedding day was the most horrible day. The way our ceremony was conducted , the way my husband participated -rude body language. His mother's behaviour gave me a shock as despite having fights with him I never doubted his mom even for a sec. I believed her to be a simple and generous lady, just like my mom. My mother had no pleasures in her life, she did hard labour and never complained. His mother lost his father 3 years ago but they had a great time. She blames her in laws for not being good to her and that she was exploited. This all she has said to me but with her inlaws she has maintained good relations - my husband has been assigned the role to fight with bad ppl in life and fight with me for good ppl in his life. I told her once that whatever happened with her has got nothing to do with me. I am not supposed to be punished if she was exploited. I came with very good intentions to their family and was treated not well by any of them.
They even taught their kid to misbehave with me. Sir I feel so bad whom I loved genuinely, I despise but now I am expected to live with them and forget. How do I forget?
I feel so insecure. Will my children also not love me?
Will they teach my children to also misbehave with me.
I know that now I am aware of the situation and that I can take charge and will not let anything bad happen. But will I succeed?
Should I end this marraige and concentrate on my business?
Why this guy has been so bad to me? He does and has done everything to make me unhappy. He is good to everyone. With me he has not been good. I don't feel we are married. He joins music class , his friend calls him to accompany her to the class and he jumps out of the house. If my uncle calls us for lunch he either will not go or he will eat the lunch and behave rudely with me for 1 month.
You have seen his horoscope, why did he marry?
He wanted a company for his mother.
we have no companionship he spends most of his time in study and comes late. We go out walking where I do the talking. He rarely interacts. Why do I live in this house? His mom is a source of depression , he told me before our marraige " meri mummy udaas rehti hain, unka dil lagaye rakhna" I try to talk to her but useless. She wants to stay unhappy and make me unhappy also.
I don't want my children to grow up in such an environment.
Sometimes he asks me to quit my job as mummy is too old to look after our baby once we become parents.
As far as my professional life is concerned , I first worked as a trainer for 1 year. I was popular as I taught concepts very easily and systematically. I left my job to learn computer networling and hardware and again I joined the same institute as a teacher , this time I became more popular as teaching comes very naturally to me. Both times I realized that I took my job very serously and my health deteriorated. Having my own institute was a dream (forgotten one). I wanted to experience accounts and administration so currently I am employed as accounts cum admin.
I wanted to learn the smallest of things required to run an organization. My mother never allowed me to struggle so I remained quite unaware of ppl, how to get things done and how to deal with people. My current job has taught me a lot and also highlighted my shortcomings.
But let me tell you during my work experience also I had to face accusations esp. in my third job.
Although I am a brave person I am also very sensitive. I just don't like being suspected. Somebody doubting my integrity hurts me.
I fear suspicion.
I was experiencing anxiety before my marraige which made me inefficent and when I joined after my marraige my boss talked about it. I am back in my form now.
I think I have gained enough experience and now I want to go back to my passion of teaching in my own institute.
I think it will keep me happy, help me to forget my bitter past . I will be able to take care of my children , I can earn and I can keep myself busy and happy.
But it is very important for me to know this person who humiliated me and made my life miserable.
I don't want to spend my life with a dishonest person.
If it was due to his shortcomings I am fine with it I can trust him but if he did all of it on purpose for his selfish reasons then I think I have a right to end this marraige.
I forgave him and had no option but to forget the night he fought hoping that we will start afresh with our marraige but the sad tale continued. His mummy didn't have a henpeck husband which is why she is so bitter which is why mummy's son accuses his wife of trying to control him.
We have not lived like a couple, he would sleep with his mother after our marraige. He would stay in study late nights.
I just don't want to spend my life or forgive a dishonest person who caused my mother severe stress and abused my late father.
I need to make a decision. I want stability and contentment from my life. I can make a decision only after I get your report.
Question 1. I lost my father when I was 8years old. I got married in october 30 2009. I feel very tired of my life. I lost my father and the person I am married to despite being a good person is very very unsupportive, he is not a husband material. Since past 3 years i.e. when I first met him , I am experiencing a very bad time (false accusations). Our Kundalis have matched but time is not good as we are both going through a rough patch of time. I was tired of my life so I wanted some relief and that is why I set up coaching class of mine.I want to know will I be a happy motherf? Will I be deprived of my children's love too?
Question 2. Will I be successful in my coaching classes business? Would you suggest me some upaays? I think I can make myself more happy being engaged in coaching business as I have been a trained before and teaching is my passion.
Question 3 I want to quit my job but that could be only possible if my business runs smooth. Should I wait or quit my job at the moment.
Answer –1 Well you lost your father because
- sun is in deblation
- rahu vision on suny
- sun is in 12 th house
- lord of 10 th house is Sun.
- saturn and Sun are together.
Regarding your husband, he is anshik manglik. ( with extremely low intensity). Her seventh house ( house of spouce, sex partner, marriage partner ) is in influence of all the paap grah.
His Moon ( mind ) is accompanied by all the paap grah. He is real strong (mind wise), can take bold decision , can be real unpredictable.
So you cannot understand him. It is not easy to understand person who is under the influence of 2 paap grah, but in your husband chart, mind is under influence of 4 paap grah. So you cannot understand him. His all 4 negatives planets together influence 7 th house is giving you misery.
And plus in your chart also, lord of seventh house is Venus and lord of bed comforts is Venus.
Venus though placed in 12 th house is good, but Venus is extremely near Sun.
Venus is at 9 degree, and Sun is at 10 degree.
So your venus has gone total ast. Because of extremely close degree with Sun.
In your chart, Jupiter and Venus are together. This combination reduces the comforts of marriage life, because Jupiter and Venus are enemies to each other.
Regarding your profession house is concerned, Sun is lord of your karma house.
Sun is in deblation.
Sun is with rahu
Sun and Saturn are together.
In Navamsha chart, sun is in saturn rashi.
So getting satisfaction from profession house is tough.
And also you are going under Mahadasha of Saturn. saturn is exalted in 12 th house.
So this indicates more expenses and losses.
So advise is not to put in your own money.
Because you will end up losing the money.
But your earning house is good, you will earn good money.
Regarding children, lord of child house is placed in 12 th house…Negative.
It is placed with Venus ….negative.
Jupiter is placed in venus house in Navamsha chart…Negative.
So child house is normal.